Improve Your Relationships – Choose Connection
February 2008
Connection is a universal human need. We all have strategies to get this need met, such as holding hands, talking over a cup of tea, hugging, going for a walk, or calling to say hello. Sometimes there is conflict in a relationship and we get angry and lose the connection. Rather than focus on what other people are doing (or not doing), here are some things YOU can start doing now to revive and deepen your connection:
1. Change Your Tone of Voice - Have a more pleasant tone that is inviting and validating. Notice the difference this has on your children, your partner and your co-workers!
2. Make a Gratitude List - For your most important relationships, create a list of qualities for which you are thankful. It's easy to see what irritates us and what we don't like. The gratitude list emphasizes their strengths, inspires a more positive outlook and manifests more of what you truly want!
3. Share an Appreciation - Share a specific appreciation with your partner / child / colleague / sibling at least once a day. e.g. "I appreciate what a good job you did helping Stephen with his homework!" or "I appreciate the way you've been proactive to keep this project on track."
Food for thought:
- Which relationships need the most attention?
- How would your relationships be different if you did these 3 things consistently?
- What else could you do to improve the quality of your relationships?
If you are ready to improve your connections, please contact me for a complimentary coaching call. Call (847) 971-3643 or email: andrea@hgcoaching.com
